Can be seen as the typical tantrums are one of the first manifestations of anger that is layer externalize humans.
It is in this
second year of life when the child tends to occur more frequently in this type
of meter readings. In this period, in fact, is still unable to control and
continues to act as its baby stage, when expressed its displeasure with any
unpleasant stimuli, such as hunger, heat, cold or sleep.
Huff, then, is the
characteristic behavior that arises whenever the infant is beyond its tolerance
to < tolerance threshold frustration>: when you want to do one thing and
the adult forbids or prevents, when you ask for something and denied, when you
call someone who does not attend, in these and similar actions tantrum erupts,
accompanied by strong crying and rolling around on the floor.
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From the findings
of some studies that have specifically addressed the issue, it appears that
parents use a variety of Technical to calm the tantrums of the child: make not
the slightest notice, remove the cause satisfying their desire; deal it a spanking
in the ass , distract his attention; procure substitute another stimulus;
etc.
The methods
by which they can achieve better results would be, according to them, the
second and the last two, remove the cause, distract, and provide another activity.
First of all,
however momentarily considered an effective solution but unwise. If you remove
the cause means letting the child get away with it, we must expect that the
frequencies appear more tantrums later, as the small. Logically, not stop to
notice that the best way to get what is denied is implementing this valuable
resource, which does not hesitate to make the first occasion.
Thus, we arrive at
the conclusion that distract and / or provide a replacement activity has to be
the best system, when in full tantrum, lead him back to normal. However, it
should be noted that the control of rage outbursts in children is only
achievable if known rationalize their behavior and accept with serenity and
grace.
All rules of
conduct propose alternatives to it they need to be within reach, is the level
of compression, and necessary evidence, so that the small have the opportunity
to learn through repetition and uniformity experience. When a child, attempting
a behavior, is once again, as all previous occasions, this is denied or
impeded, leaving slowly making his tantrum when he realized its futility.
This does not
mean, or anything, that the attitude of the major must be absolutely
inflexible, because sometimes the tantrums may be justified by a real need of
the child.
Bear in mind that
if this inflexibility has to exist, precisely because it is a recognition of maturation demands of small, but never justified by convenience or adult
momentary mood.
The best guarantee
of the domain of the child itself is given by the self-control of the
biggest-parents, relatives, teachers, as the little one is doing still a <
learning and socialization > and not even able to develop appropriate
behavior to circumstances.
AGREES TO TAKE THOSE ATTITUDE TANTRUMS?
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The methods by
which they can achieve better results would be, according to them, the second
and the last two, remove the cause, distract, and provide another activity.
First of all,
however momentarily considered an effective solution but unwise. If you remove
the cause means letting the child get away with it, we must expect that the
frequencies appear more tantrums later, as the small. Logically, not stop to
notice that the best way to get what is denied is implementing this valuable
resource, which does not hesitate to make the first occasion.
Thus, we arrive at
the conclusion that distract and / or provide a replacement activity has to be
the best system, when in full tantrum, lead him back to normal. However, it
should be noted that the control of rage outbursts in children is only
achievable if known rationalize their behavior and accept with serenity and
grace.
All rules of
conduct propose alternatives to it they need to be within reach, is the level
of compression, and necessary evidence, so that the small have the opportunity
to learn through repetition and uniformity experience. When a child, attempting
a behavior, is once again, as all previous occasions, this is denied or impeded,
leaving slowly making his tantrum when he realized its futility.
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Bear in mind that if this inflexibility
has to exist, precisely because it is a recognition of maturation demands of
small, but never justified by convenience or adult momentary mood.
The best guarantee
of the domain of the child itself is given by the self-control of the
biggest-parents, relatives, teachers, as the little one is doing still a <
learning and socialization > and not even able to develop appropriate
behavior to circumstances.
Remember what was
said at
the beginning:
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But it is important to remember that
these behaviors tell us, as we hope in this age, your daughter (or) is
developing independence and testing the new skills he has developed or is
developing, reaching another milestone in its development.
Learning to control these impulses,
which are a normal part of their development, is a process that begins during
this age and lasts the rest of your life. As parents, we have to think as we
help our children manage their independence and develop self-control. Remember,
these behaviors will emerge and we cannot eliminate them but to learn to handle
them.
Giving for acceptable choices for you.
The importance of the boundaries even
with your flexibility and providing options, your little (a) will want to test
the limits that you put. This is a normal part of development. The hardest
thing is to be consistent but also flexible.
Children
learn when they put clear and consistent boundaries with love. In this way, we
teach them what is acceptable and what is not.A set limit is not only part of disciplining our children but part of teaching. It is therefore very important that we remain firm against certain limits that are very important for us (these vary from family to family depending on their value)
Remember that every time we give a
limit, we give them Carte Blanche to continue testing our children that limit.
But as you know, a very important part of being a parent is also being
flexible. There will be certain things where the limits can be more flexible
and we can negotiate with our small to let them feel in control and feel that
they develop the independence they desire.
Keep Calm Tantrums will emerge with
more intensity about two years as a result of this desire for independence.
Faced with certain limits, children will be overwhelmed by their feelings and
yet without developing their ability to manage it more effectively, will have
tantrums that can be very dramatic (dropping to the ground, screaming ...)
There are many ways to handle tantrums
that arise during this age, but it is very important to us to try to stay calm.
If we are calm, we help our children see that we do not lose control and you
are safe with us.
All (I) know how hard it is to stay
calm right now but it is important to test Him, for when we get angry; usually
increase their frustration and tantrums. These are good times for help of our
partners / family / friends to take some deep breaths or do anything else to
help us stay calm.
Tantrum and
throwing tantrums
The important thing is to remember
that tantrums and the desire for independence also get a lot of development
goals that fill us with joy. That desire to do things for yourself will help
you eat alone (a), to start learning to dress, want to choose their clothes,
their shoes, to show us the things you like and do not give us an window more
to meet this little person we love.
NOTE: This article
is for educational purposes only and does not replace a medical or
psychological consultation. You should not use this information to diagnose or
treat a health problem or behavior but consult a doctor or mental health
professional examine you in person and who is authorized to practice his
profession in the town where you live.