What to do with the temper tantrums and tantrums in our children

Can be seen as the typical tantrums are one of the first manifestations of anger that is layer externalize humans.

It is in this second year of life when the child tends to occur more frequently in this type of meter readings. In this period, in fact, is still unable to control and continues to act as its baby stage, when expressed its displeasure with any unpleasant stimuli, such as hunger, heat, cold or sleep.

Huff, then, is the characteristic behavior that arises whenever the infant is beyond its tolerance to < tolerance threshold frustration>: when you want to do one thing and the adult forbids or prevents, when you ask for something and denied, when you call someone who does not attend, in these and similar actions tantrum erupts, accompanied by strong crying and rolling around on the floor.

 Do not ever see it as an attempt by the child to attack or annoy the older, is simply expressing bodily feelings. It is therefore a primary reaction later learning to channel anger in a more socially acceptable.

From the findings of some studies that have specifically addressed the issue, it appears that parents use a variety of Technical to calm the tantrums of the child: make not the slightest notice, remove the cause satisfying their desire; deal it a spanking in the ass , distract his attention; procure substitute another stimulus; etc.

 The methods by which they can achieve better results would be, according to them, the second and the last two, remove the cause, distract, and provide another activity.

First of all, however momentarily considered an effective solution but unwise. If you remove the cause means letting the child get away with it, we must expect that the frequencies appear more tantrums later, as the small. Logically, not stop to notice that the best way to get what is denied is implementing this valuable resource, which does not hesitate to make the first occasion.

Thus, we arrive at the conclusion that distract and / or provide a replacement activity has to be the best system, when in full tantrum, lead him back to normal. However, it should be noted that the control of rage outbursts in children is only achievable if known rationalize their behavior and accept with serenity and grace.

All rules of conduct propose alternatives to it they need to be within reach, is the level of compression, and necessary evidence, so that the small have the opportunity to learn through repetition and uniformity experience. When a child, attempting a behavior, is once again, as all previous occasions, this is denied or impeded, leaving slowly making his tantrum when he realized its futility.

This does not mean, or anything, that the attitude of the major must be absolutely inflexible, because sometimes the tantrums may be justified by a real need of the child.

Bear in mind that if this inflexibility has to exist, precisely because it is a recognition of maturation demands of small, but never justified by convenience or adult momentary mood.

The best guarantee of the domain of the child itself is given by the self-control of the biggest-parents, relatives, teachers, as the little one is doing still a < learning and socialization > and not even able to develop appropriate behavior to circumstances.

AGREES TO TAKE THOSE ATTITUDE       TANTRUMS?

From the findings of some studies that have specifically addressed the issue, it appears that parents use a variety of technique to calm the tantrums of the child: make not the slightest notice, remove the cause satisfying their desire; deal it a spanking in the ass , distract his attention; procure substitute another stimulus; etc.

The methods by which they can achieve better results would be, according to them, the second and the last two, remove the cause, distract, and provide another activity.

First of all, however momentarily considered an effective solution but unwise. If you remove the cause means letting the child get away with it, we must expect that the frequencies appear more tantrums later, as the small. Logically, not stop to notice that the best way to get what is denied is implementing this valuable resource, which does not hesitate to make the first occasion.

Thus, we arrive at the conclusion that distract and / or provide a replacement activity has to be the best system, when in full tantrum, lead him back to normal. However, it should be noted that the control of rage outbursts in children is only achievable if known rationalize their behavior and accept with serenity and grace.

All rules of conduct propose alternatives to it they need to be within reach, is the level of compression, and necessary evidence, so that the small have the opportunity to learn through repetition and uniformity experience. When a child, attempting a behavior, is once again, as all previous occasions, this is denied or impeded, leaving slowly making his tantrum when he realized its futility.

 This does not mean, or anything, that the attitude of the major must be absolutely inflexible, because sometimes the tantrums may be justified by a real need of the child.

     Bear in mind that if this inflexibility has to exist, precisely because it is a recognition of maturation demands of small, but never justified by convenience or adult momentary mood.

The best guarantee of the domain of the child itself is given by the self-control of the biggest-parents, relatives, teachers, as the little one is doing still a < learning and socialization > and not even able to develop appropriate behavior to circumstances.

Remember what was said at 

the beginning:

The tantrum arises because the child does not know otherwise show its powerlessness and frustration but crying externalizing their anger in a motor discharge which leads to thrashing and kicking.

Frequent tantrum and throwing tantrums that happen about two years make us call this age, the terrible or fearsome two.

But it is important to remember that these behaviors tell us, as we hope in this age, your daughter (or) is developing independence and testing the new skills he has developed or is developing, reaching another milestone in its development.

Learning to control these impulses, which are a normal part of their development, is a process that begins during this age and lasts the rest of your life. As parents, we have to think as we help our children manage their independence and develop self-control. Remember, these behaviors will emerge and we cannot eliminate them but to learn to handle them.

As desire for independence is independence that your child (a) wants, it is important that you give the power to make small decisions. There are certain things, like the color of the shirt he wears; the toy can be a walk, etc... Decisions that can be yours. So pick your "battles" and let him make decisions appropriate to their age. Some other things, like food or activities to be performed are not as flexible and tend to create proxy wars between parents and children. On these occasions you can give small options that give you the feeling of having more control. For example, instead of saying no to eat broccoli, you can say, "Do you want broccoli or beans?"



Giving for acceptable choices for you.

The importance of the boundaries even with your flexibility and providing options, your little (a) will want to test the limits that you put. This is a normal part of development. The hardest thing is to be consistent but also flexible. 

Children learn when they put clear and consistent boundaries with love. In this way, we teach them what is acceptable and what is not.
A set limit is not only part of disciplining our children but part of teaching. It is therefore very important that we remain firm against certain limits that are very important for us (these vary from family to family depending on their value)

Remember that every time we give a limit, we give them Carte Blanche to continue testing our children that limit. But as you know, a very important part of being a parent is also being flexible. There will be certain things where the limits can be more flexible and we can negotiate with our small to let them feel in control and feel that they develop the independence they desire.

Keep Calm Tantrums will emerge with more intensity about two years as a result of this desire for independence. Faced with certain limits, children will be overwhelmed by their feelings and yet without developing their ability to manage it more effectively, will have tantrums that can be very dramatic (dropping to the ground, screaming ...)

There are many ways to handle tantrums that arise during this age, but it is very important to us to try to stay calm. If we are calm, we help our children see that we do not lose control and you are safe with us.

All (I) know how hard it is to stay calm right now but it is important to test Him, for when we get angry; usually increase their frustration and tantrums. These are good times for help of our partners / family / friends to take some deep breaths or do anything else to help us stay calm.

Tantrum and throwing tantrums

An opportunity to learn Tantrums are also great opportunities to teach our children, but it is important to let them pass before attempting to reason with them. As happens to us, it is very difficult to have a rational conversation when we are super angry. Once the tantrum is over, we can help our children understand what happened and give strategies to address this problem more effectively in the future (e.g. Giving words to express when angry in the future) Knowing your child (a), also will discover the best way to help you calm down, this is different for each child (a)

The important thing is to remember that tantrums and the desire for independence also get a lot of development goals that fill us with joy. That desire to do things for yourself will help you eat alone (a), to start learning to dress, want to choose their clothes, their shoes, to show us the things you like and do not give us an window more to meet this little person we love.

NOTE: This article is for educational purposes only and does not replace a medical or psychological consultation. You should not use this information to diagnose or treat a health problem or behavior but consult a doctor or mental health professional examine you in person and who is authorized to practice his profession in the town where you live.